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Sandy - 2004-05-26 16:29:11
I don't think it's a good idea to tell your kids about your swinging lifestyle, just like it wouldn't be a good idea to tell your kids about any other aspect of your sex life. Obviously when the time is right you'll have to give them the "When a mommy and daddy love each other very much..." speech, but as long as you and your husband are affectionate and demonstrative toward each other, that's all your kids would need to know. It's not like parents with a more "traditional" sexual lifestyle tell their kids what goes on in the bedroom. As far as the virginity thing... take it slow, and don't be afraid of lube. It will make things so much easier and less painful.
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kim - 2004-05-26 16:51:17
hmmm i don't have a question right now,but if i think of one I'll ask ya. i just wanted to grace your comments page with my presence! �
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twrorth-jim - 2004-05-27 16:52:39
Interesting questions. My feeling has always been that it doesn't do any good to lie to kids. They'll find out the truth anyway, and if you lied to them, they want trust or respect you anymore. Even about Santa Claus. And they are going to choose their own lifestyle, no matter what you say. Just try to give them a good example that they find worthy of following. That doesn't mean that a free sexual lifestyle is a bad example. Quite the contrary. Teach them that it's alright to express their freedom as long as no one is hurt by it. As for virginity, if the questioner is focusing on expected pain rather than the good feelings sex delivers, she is doing it for the wrong reason. Wait until you want to express your deep feeling for someone to have sex with them. It will still hurt a little the first time, but that won't be what you are focuing on. Rather it will properly be the love and affection you have for your partner.
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