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Question?

Wednesday, Jun. 01, 2005, at 7:54 a.m.

I decided to go through all of my comment pages and some of my emails to see if I could make a list of the questions asked that I may or may not have already answered.

I will answer them as best I can.

1. Don't you ever hurt after such intense nether-region activities?

Sometimes I do, which is why I've learned to travel with lube.

2. Is this sort of thing always a mutual engagement with the hubby or do you
ever do this without his presence?

Although I much prefer to have Hubby there (or at least in the vicinity) we each have had occasion to play without the other around. Some couples list this as one of their no-nos. No playing separately, but in time, we were comfortable enough to play with others without the other being present.

3. Four pretty good fucks, but by that time I was pretty spent- I was wet, but not slippery and certainly not in the mood. Does that happen to you? How many studs does it take to dry you out, or haven't you done that many?

First of all, I won't do it if I'm not in the mood. Yes, I have dried out, generally if there was a hot tub or a pool involved before the play or if I had alcohol to drink before hand. There isn't a specific number of Studs it takes to dry me out. I've been with just one and been dry and I've been with 5 or 6 and never had to touch lube.

4. Is a gang bang by close to 20 guys a recipe for anything but a nightmare?

Depends on how you know the 20 guys, whether or not they are respectful to stop when you need to, or slow down or give you a break to get water or go to the bathroom. I don't think I'd feel comfortable with 20 guys I didn't know (or that I didn't know at least half of them...who WOULD protect me if I needed it).

5. Bet it turns you on to know that people the world over can get a look at them, huh?

This question was in relation to the "Guess the Breasts" contest that Mr. Grey did a while back. And yes, it does turn me on to know that my breasts are (still!) being looked at by people I'll never meet and possibly by some who know me, but don't realize it's ME!

6. I plan on losing my virginity in the next few weeks. Any pointers? any ideas to make it less painful?

This one was one of the most difficult questions to answer. I am not in the frame of mind to give advice on how to lose your virginity. When I lost mine, it wasn't planned, and it was with someone I loved very very much. I didn't have the pain that a lot of people have, so I can't even help with that. The only "advice" I have is to use a condom and maybe have some lube around, just in case.

7. I guess you don't have kids huh? I'm jealous.

We do have kids. However I am a stepmother, not a biological mother.

8. Where do you find these sorts of places?

This question pertained to the different websites/clubs. And really, that's an easy one to answer: Google or Yahoo.

9. The thought of the love of my life touching or even looking at another woman just kills me inside. I would be so hurt by that. How can you even watch and be ok with this kind of lifestyle??

I don't expect everyone to understand, because honestly, I wouldn't have understood it a few years ago either. Just know that I love him and he loves me and this is just a "hobby" that we both enjoy doing - together and separately.

10. I have questions, though: when you first met your hubby did you both make it clear that you wanted an open relationship, or was it something that
developed over time?

We are unusual in the swinging lifestyle. Most couples become swingers after being married and wanting to spice up their sex lives. It ends up stemming from pillow talk. In our case, on our second date, he told me this was what he was looking for in a woman. At the time I was dating someone else (dating, not in a relationship) and was happy to be with more than one person. I didn't really understand swinging, but learned as I went along and realized it was perfect for the two of us. So we were actually a "swinging couple" months before we got married.

11. What can these guys expect at xmas? BTW, what ever happened to James?

This was in relation to the Alarm Guy entry. Truth is I'll give William whatever he wants for Xmas. *smile* As far as James goes...I miss playing with him. He was a lot of fun and such a sweet guy. He is dating off and on and some of the ladies in his life have not been swingers, so he is being respectful and being monogomous with them. My ego doesn't want to admit it, but there are also times that I think he just didn't enjoy being with me as much as I enjoyed being with him...something you have to learn to deal with in the swinging world and in the non-swinging world: Not everyone is going to like you and you are not going to like everyone.

12. I wonder if William would like a butt plug or let you entertain him with a strap-on?

I don't know and I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable broaching the subject with him.

13. You know what amazes me about you? Multiple O's. How do you do it consistently? Special diet or exercises? Is this something you trained for or are you a natural?

I have no idea. I am just one of those women who can have orgasm after orgasm. I don't question it...I just count myself lucky. :-)

14. Can I ask...does it ever get old?

Actually, that is a very very good question. Hubby and I actually go in spurts. We will go months not being able to get enough of being with others, then months where swinging is just the last thing on our minds. So, yes, it can get old, but generally just for short periods of time.

15. Do you know couples with kids that swing?

Yes. As a matter of fact all of the couples we have met and played with, with the exception of one, has kids.

16. Do you find you socialise with the same couples you swing with or do you
have two distinct groups of friends?

For the most part, they are two distictive groups, but, we are fortunate enough to know at least two or three couples that we've gone out with on occasion that we've done family picnics with, or gone to a ball game or bowling or just a movie. Some swingers want the friendship along with it and some make it clear that they just want to get together and "fuck" and not take it beyond that.

I hope I did ok in answering the questions.

If you have more, please feel free to email or comment any time.

SG

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